Welcome! How exciting that we can go on this journey together. I tend to write in free form thought, so I'll tend to post on just about anything that strikes my fancy - life in the Midwest for a Cali Gal, culture, politics, history, opinion, entertainment... Basically, life. Grand, ain't it?
Subtlety Is Not Our Strong Suit
"She didn't look like anyone else in the bar - that's why I approached her."
And with that, I knew the picture he was about to show me was of a woman of color. I guessing she would at least be Asian and possibly, just possibly, she might be black. At that moment, I knew he was telling me that he was open to dating a woman of any race. He didn't need to explain further. I doubt he would have explained his attraction to his girlfriend this way if he were telling a white woman. It's a subtle code; one we cross race daters know and use when we don't know if our company is as open as we are. When we aren't sure, but feeling a bit intimate, we ask straight out - do you date "x"?
I know there are other ways WM let us know that they are open to dating ethnic women. Now, I'm not talking about Japanese, Chinese or Korean women - I mean dark skinned, wide nosed babes. And one of those ways is telling us about the pseudo-ethnic women they have dated (the Japanese, Chinese and Korean ones I was talking about earlier). The hints are good and I actually like when they volunteer the information. That makes my investigation work not as hard.
Then, it's just a matter of picking around the edges - what kind of music does he like? If it's country, forget it; he's probably not ever going to be into you. If he lets on that he likes hip hop or better yet, jazz or world music, then you know that he just might really be into you! Simple small talk should get to the heart of the matter and then you know if you can slip him a knowing look, a blink of an eye or a lick of the lips.
So I am getting old. We all do. And it's true, time seems to fly by. I don't know how it happened, but I'm glad to have the memories. Where I feel age most is music. You know, the day you don't know any of the currently popular tracks, you're old. I fancy myself a pretty good arbiter of good music, so I am ashamed to admit that I missed this genius. Yup, I'm calling it. I'm late. Clarence Greenwood, aka Citizen Cope, has been around for ages. The above with Eric Clapton (Eric Clapton?!) is from 2010! How did I not know about him? I didn't know. My husband didn't know. Most people didn't know. That needs to change. He's good. His music is good. And he's got a fab life partner - Alice Smith.
So, my mission is let as many people as possible know about him. He should be a thing. And so should Alice.
For the record, Roy Moore does not deserve to serve in the U.S. Senate because he is a fool and charlatan who does not respect the Constitution - except for the 2nd Amendment (is that surprising?). He is a disgraced, former jurist.
And he appears to be a serial sexual predator of young women. That first statement should be in the nail in his political office coffin. And the second should be the dirt on that coffin, but it's not. And that's a shame. A clear pattern has been established and verified. For many on the right side of the aisle, the evidence, the statements of the women are not enough. I get the political reasons why Republicans don't want to lose a Senate seat. But at what cost? The cost of their souls. History will not be kind to them on many levels.