Showing posts from 2007

Be In Harmony With What Is

I've not had the best two weeks. I've been snarky, negative and not willing to play the game. I'm not so happy with work right now and not afraid to let anyone who will listen know it. I've not had sex in a while (well, I hadn't up until a few hours ago, but that's another post that's percolating in my head; and has absolutely nothing to do with Mr. Casablanca) and that always puts one out of sorts.

I was having issues. I was unhappy with everything. And then it hit me.

I was not in harmony with what is. I wanted things to be different from what they were. I wanted things to be as I wanted them. I want Mr. Casablanca staring into my eyes. I wanted all work issues to disappear - I wanted them to listen to me.

In short, I was in a fantasy world.

I realize now that I cannot be out of harmony with what is. Things might change; they might not. And when -- if, they do change, then I must be in harmony with it. Simplicity denotes quality and I want a qual…

Let the Man Carry Your Damn Stuff!!!

I have already admitted that I am a lousy flirt.

Now I must confess that I am also slow on the uptake; very slow. I was confusing to the two. I can flirt when I am fast on the uptake. However, in my dealings with Mr. Casablanca (as I will call the objection of my intention from here on in), I can flirt and actually have flirted as he has done with me. The problem has been that we never seem to be doing it at the same time. Nope, when he says something leading, in his oh so cute way, it seems to go right over my head. Same is true when I get up the gumption to slide in a glib and sexy remark, he seems to be on another plain. In both our defenses, I think we're immensely shy around each other and pretty soon his co-workers are going to start yelling, "if you don't ask her out; I'll ask her out for you!" Kinda like mine are, except they don't believe in women asking men out.

For instance, today, I was carrying a box. He and crew were sitting in the courtyard, hav…

I Believe

The following is the full text of Barack Obama's closing speech in Iowa. He's right – we must lose the cynicism, the fear, the doubts. It is our time; we must seize it.

Ten months ago, I stood on the steps of the Old State Capitol in Springfield, Illinois, and began an unlikely journey to change America. I did not run for the presidency to fulfill some long-held ambition or because I believed it was somehow owed to me. I chose to run in this election – at this moment – because of what Dr. King called "the fierce urgency of now." Because we are at a defining moment in our history. Our nation is at war. Our planet is in peril. Our health care system is broken, our economy is out of balance, our education system fails too many of our children, and our retirement system is in tatters.
At this defining moment, we cannot wait any longer for universal health care. We cannot wait to fix our schools. We cannot wait for good jobs, and living wages, and pensions we can count on. …

The Movie Quiz

Here I am again with more questions.

If a man younger than 35 has seen "Casablanca" and actually likes it, does that mean he'll go to the new Sex & the City movie with me in the Spring - especially if I gather up the gumption to ask him by then? Now, he's seen "Titanic", but didn't think it was romantic (me neither) and was waiting for the damned boat to capsize. He's not necessarily into musicals, but will see one he thinks might be interesting. Yeah, he's a movie watcher, like me. We haven't talked enough for me to figure out just how much of a movie buff he is, but I had to admit, his having seen Casablanca and liked it made my head turn -- yet again.

That, and absolutely getting my 70s party Black Panther costume that almost no one at the job got. He even raised his fist in the air. Damn, that white boy is good!

I haven't asked him out, but oh, in my head, he's asked me out ten different ways and just to make sure that things go…

Subtlety Is Not Our Strong Suit

"She didn't look like anyone else in the bar - that's why I approached her."
And with that, I knew the picture he was about to show me was of a woman of color. I guessing she would at least be Asian and possibly, just possibly, she might be black. At that moment, I knew he was telling me that he was open to dating a woman of any race. He didn't need to explain further. I doubt he would have explained his attraction to his girlfriend this way if he were telling a white woman. It's a subtle code; one we cross race daters know and use when we don't know if our company is as open as we are. When we aren't sure, but feeling a bit intimate, we ask straight out - do you date "x"?
I know there are other ways WM let us know that they are open to dating ethnic women. Now, I'm not talking about Japanese, Chinese or Korean women - I mean dark skinned, wide nosed babes. And one of those ways is telling us about the pseudo-ethnic women they have dated (…

A Friend Is Gone

Last night, after a short battle with feline leukemia, my fun loving pet baby, Minka, passed away at the foot of my bed. I have a lot of emotions - none of them too positive about the whole thing, but... I am thankful that she passed away near me rather than alone. I feel privileged to have witnessed her last breath on this earth. While she was only five, she was the light of my feline loving eyes. She will be sorely missed. Yet, I am proud that she touched my life and gave our little family all the love she did.

Bless you Minka. I know you're in the light.

Fione Man of the Month

Michael Vartan

Okay, so the character he plays on TV is so obviously in love with his best friend, who happens to be a beautiful BW. Whatever. MV is hot; always has been. Like him soooo much better with a BW than that Jennifer Gardner (what is it about her? I don't get it...).

He's fluent in French and English. He grew up on two continents. He seems rather intelligent (and you know, DRs, how important that is to me). Yup, a yummy man with a mind. Ah, bliss.

Now, his show, Big Shots, is rumored to be in trouble, so tune in. I've been watching since day one and haven't missed an episode yet. Helps that the storyline of his and Nia Long's characters is the strongest. I've already written ABC to register my support of the show. Heck, why am I always alone with this kind of stuff? Well... I was an early adopter of "Heroes".

Check out the James and Katie storyline in vid form. Forget the sappy music, but I think the chemistry between the two actors is…

Flashback Video: Slave to Love

One of my favorite songs of all time... Classic and timeless. Makes me feel like drinking champagne and finding someone to jump.

Ask A Man

As I sit home on a Friday night, I've been wondering if a woman can or should ask a man out or should she wait for him to ask her? I know this question has different answers for different people. But I asked my co-workers today because I'm pondering asking out a guy working temporarily in our building who has caught my eye. I know that he's super shy and was intimidated by me at first, but we've hit a comfortable stride lately. If I'm not mistaken, he's even mildly flirted with me, in front of others no less. But that could be up for interpretation; me, I'm really shy when I get a guy in front of me that I am attracted to. I get tongue tied. I miss innuendo. I am so slow to pick up on hints and I lose my sense of humor. I know that I've lost sooo many opportunities to this.
The funny part is that I'm not shy.
I say my mind. I have opinions. It all gets lost when I'm right there in front of the dreamboat, afraid to show my cards. I know it's f…

Ndel's Favorite Things

Heck, if Oprah can have one, I can too, right?

In no particular order, get ready, get set.... and no, everyone who reads this post will not get one of each of the items!

I think these are just lovely, understated, sophisticated and classy - pearl coin earrings from Iridesse, $150

And who doesn't love Masterpiece Theatre? Only someone who has never seen it. Three of my all-time favorites are: I, Claudius; The Jewel in the Crown & Bleak House, $29-$99

I feel so fantastic and French and cool when I wear EauFantasque from Fragonard, $85
As I've freely admitted on a frighteningly regular basis, I am a Burberry addict. I cannot resist the stuff. Nova check? Yes, please. Traditional Check. Of course. Scarf? Always. You get the idea. A cap or hat? Oh my god, yes! This one - $200

When I want to be seductive and sexy, I lather up with Bath & Body Works' Aromatherapy Sensuality line vanilla jasmine scent. The brown sugar scrub is scrumptious and makes your skin silky smooth, $20

I …

Sweet Success!


All I Want for Christmas

I've been bitten. I've been smitten. And I'm considering spending up to $400 to get one.

Yes, it's the Nintendo Wii.
And me, not a gamer! Heck, the closest I come to gaming is playing Brick Breaker on my Blackberry. But, I had the good fortune to have the Thanksgiving feast at my pal Andrea's place and she had the office Wii on loan. We had a ball. We played golf and bowling well into the wee morning hours.
I just have to have one. I'm thinking it'll make Cam's third birthday party for adults a much more child-like experience. Especially on the big screen. Oh yeah. I can see it now. All of us adults running around, hitting golf balls (the one game I actually won). Cam can use it, in like two years. He'll appreciate it, I know he will.
Being the obsessive gal that I am, I got online this morning to research where I can find one of these things that the Amazon reviews say is cheap - $250 retail, well below the other "hardcore" gaming consol…

The Urge to Merge

What is it about plain, mousy, smart women who suck any available man's attention out of the room? Yeah, yeah, yeah. I'm smart, but I'm not mousy. I'm cute, not plain. I know where I have the deficit is the weight thing. Gosh, but plenty of men like voluptuous women, especially if said voluptuous woman is smart and cute, right?
We're all used to the stunning beauty who sucks all the manttention out of the room; we hang around hoping that said men will notice she's vapid and vain and can't tell the difference between the Sunnis and Shites. (I'll leave out the gorgeous and smart gal pal that you're always happy to see meet a great guy - but then again, she's rarely single precisely because men snap her up immediately - she spends little time on the open market - better yet for your odds.) But I am continually perplexed by the chick who manages to monopolize any single man's attention within striking distance. I've known - actually worked w…

Fione Man of the Month

Okay, so I've switched from "Fione Man of the Week" to "Fione Man of the Month". Mostly, I've changed so that I don't go through the entire White House Press Corps by the election. As you see from my choice, I'm partial to smart, articulate, informed men. Yet another political choice. Gosh, I'm predictable.

Richard Wolffe
Wolffe is the senior White House Correspondent for Newsletter. Before Newsweek, he was deputy bureau chief and U.S. diplomatic correspondent in Washington D.C. for the Financial Times. His earlier work included coverage of the Microsoft antitrust trial and the Clinton administration’s plans to break up the company. Wolffe is the author of The Victim’s Fortune, which reveals the behind-the-scenes deals that led to billions of dollars in compensation to the Nazis’ victims in the late 1990s and as co-author of a Spanish cookbook, Tapas: A Taste of Spain in America, published in 2005. He has also written for food magazines such as Fo…

Stores That Aren't Here Anymore

Remember Zody's? I used to love that store. It was full of brightly colored clothing that we could actually afford. In Pasadena, where we lived, the local Zody's was above a Ralph's on Villa. We used to go grocery shopping and then head upstairs for a quick look-see.

We always ended up buying something.

As I trolled the aisles of Target on Sunday, I wondered if Zody's just went away or was it the precursor to Target? What happened to those really cool neon bikinis they used to sell (and I used to fit in)? Heck, what happened to Akron and all that really cool macrame and rattan, that I'm sure Huey Newton was familiar with. And what of Gemco and Fedco, Montgomery Ward's? And from when I got older and could afford a more few dollars - I.Magnin, Bullocks, The Broadway, Robinson's, Joseph Magnin's and The May Company. Heck, I want to give a shout out to Builder's Emporium! For all us young, single gals, Judy's was the place. Then, there was Casual Corn…

Crushed for Lunch

I'll be forty next year. I don't think about it much, except that I'll be a round number (as I get rounder) and that I vaguely feel like I should "do" something. What I'll do is anybody's guess, but I find it quite funny that as I enter the middle part of my life, a ghost - no, a longing, from the past is very much probably going to be a part, a very small part, of my future.

Remember your first real teenage crush? You know, the one you really liked, you hoped liked you back, but you couldn't speak directly to, so you had all kinds of intermediaries taking your messages to? Remember those notes in class? Or how about waiting breathlessly for nutrition or lunch to discuss with your friends the complicated head nods in the hallway, body language and bouts of silence? These things needed to be dissected. No wonder these types of complicated teenage mating rituals almost always end badly.

Brady was my 9th grade crush. He was the one that got away. Although …

Ready or Not

As I was driving home yesterday, listening to All Things Considered on NPR, like all good wishy washy liberals, I heard a piece on the 2008 presidential race (what else?) and Clinton’s poor showing in last week’s debate. Now, I didn’t see that particular debate – there have been too damn many of them – but I have seen the gotcha moment and the other candidates, namely Obama and Edwards, capitalizing off her rare mistake. The reporter asked if a voter was going to give Obama a second look now. The guy said no; he didn’t think the US is actually ready to elect a black man president.
The would-be voter guy was black.
How do I know you ask? I just do. Besides, reporters never ask white people if the U.S. is ready for a black president; and if they do, it’s not a straight out question. It’s more like, “would you vote for a black man for president?” And what are they going to say – no way, hell will freeze over first? No, that wouldn’t do. Reporters feel free to ask black people if we think w…

Oh, Let Me Go

This is one of my all-time favorites from the vintage year of 1983 by Heaven 17. It can get me out on the dance floor in seconds - casts or no casts! Pick up the full album, Lap of Luxury by this socialist 80s icon!


What's A Girl To Do?

I have a dilemma. The other day, during my daily LA Times reading, I came across an article on this guy, Kevin Madden, campaign spokesperson for one Mitt Romney. Yes, that Mitt Romney; the one running for president; the Mormon who won't explain what exactly a Mormon believes. Yup, Mr. Madden works for that Mitt Romney.

But, gawd is Madden a babe!

So, I did what every single gal does when she sees a handsome man and actually knows his first and last name - I Googled him. He was still cute, but thanks for the marvels of technology, I also discovered some not so enticing tidbits about the man. Not only does he shill these days for Romney, but he essentially held the same position for Rep. John Boehner (yeah right, it's pronounced "bainer") and former Rep. Tom De Lay. Normally, a man that cute, that accomplished, that articulate is a shoe-in for Fione Man of the Week, if he was left leaning. I will be the first to admit that generally just being a republican is a deal br…

Some Days Are Different

I have been down lately - literally. Last month, I fell and badly sprained both of my ankles. Don't ask me how that happened, but it did. Right on the heels (or ankle) of July when I sprained the right one. Amazing. The paperwork, the re-arranging schedules, the working from home, it's all been less than fun. I thought that with being homebound and bedbound, I would have plenty of time to write on all sorts of subjects: politics, celibratards, the new television season. But no, all creativity left me. I had nothing to say. The best I did was keep up on my blog reading. Oh, and television watching. I'm up to date on most of the shows. Whoopie! I know the storylines for Cane, Dirty Sexy Money, The Bionic Woman and Life. But I think the show I like the most of Pushing Daisies. It's whimsical, it's funny and it's pretty. Something to take away the sting of wearing two air casts and writing checks to various doctors. The world is still the same place, but hopefully,…

Foine Man of the Week

James Purefoy
Oh, Rome, Rome, Rome... One of the best reasons to check out the now cancelled series was the gorgeous and sexy James, who played Anthony. Oh, what a hot man and willing to do full frontal nudity, that I would have posted if I could have found it! Hopefully, he'll be on the small or the big screen soon. Here's hoping!

Look for him; I know I will.

Flashback Video: Wherever I Lay My Hat....

This song didn't catch you in the States like it did overseas; I don't know why, it's an excellent cover by a man we should have heard from more, Paul Young.

It's All About Me Me Me Me....

I've been tagged yet again (like I'm oh, so popular...) by Lovebabz. These days, I do follow a few more blogs, but as I said before, most have been tagged already and I am wary of double tagging them. So, I'll come up with seven facts and a few blogs I follow to make up for copping out twice on the whole spreading link thing. You know, it's like getting the same chain email several times over a period of time... But, I love my gurl, so...

1. My childhood canine companion, Zenda, was a direct descendant of the original Rin Tin Tin. She was an awesome dog that my mom gave away for really dumb reasons. My brother and I still bemoan the fact that she did this; although we didn't find out 'til about ten years ago. For years, she told us that Zenda ran away.

2. I was born in the old Cedars of Lebanon hospital. The building is now the world headquarters for the "Church" of Scientology.

3. My favorite statue in the whole wide world is The Pieta by Michelangelo …

Fione Man of the Week

Jay Carney
Since I make a habit of watching the Sunday morning gabfests, I see Jay Carney often; sometimes with his lovely wife and fellow journalist, Claire Shipman, and sometimes alone (guess which times I like better). He is Time's Washington bureau chief. has been writing about politics for Time since '93. He's written extensively about the Bush presidency and was one of a handful of journalists who were on Air Force One with the president on 9/11. He has unprecedented access to Vice President Cheney and most other senior advisors. Carney later won the 2003 Gerald R. Ford Prize for Distinguished Reporting on the Presidency. He has covered both the Clinton and Bush 43 White Houses, as well as Congress. Before coming to Washington, he spent three years reporting from Time's Moscow bureau, covering the collapse of the Soviet Union. Prior to that he was Time’s Miami bureau chief. He has also served as a special correspondent for CNN and makes frequent appearances as a p…

Fione Man of the Week

Dante Zappala
I first saw him on a segment of Hardball, a show I record every day. He was discussing Petraeus' appearance before the Congress. Zappala lost his brother, Sergeant Sherwood Baker, during the Iraq war. He's now a member of Gold Star Families Speak Out. Recently, he wrote a letter to George W. Bush.

My brother, Sherwood Baker, died in Iraq last week. I tried to call you and I tried to write to you, but you never responded. I'm writing to you again because I believe had you known him, you would have liked him... And maybe if you knew him, if you knew the other soldiers, you'd have thought differently about sending them.

Sherwood was a foster kid, and he came to our family before I was born. He had limited contact with his biological family. Our parents never let him go. They received him, raised him, and he was their child. He was their son and my brother. In so many ways, Sherwood represented the country he loved.
He was dealt a tough hand and turned it into o…

What's Wrong With America?

This picture encapsulates the love/hate the US has with women and our bodies. So-called "real women" are celebrated, but in the same breath, we're reminded, "as long as they're thin." Nowhere is this more apparent than in the latest issue of Glamour magazine (yes, that Glamour magazine, the same that suggested BW should perm their hair for the office, setting off a virtual war in the black community).

The lovely, talented America Ferrera (you have seen "Real Women Have Curves", haven't you?) is done so wrong by Glamour. They have obviously photoshopped her face onto someone else's skinnier body. Was there any reason for this? Yeah, the name of the magazine is Glamour. But who better to showcase glamour than the heroine of Ugly Betty, the conscience of a fictional, heartless fashion magazine? Where's the outcry? The outrage? The disgust? Who made this boneheaded decision? And who does their shitty photoshopping? Cam could do a better jo…

Death & the Alien Have Some Fun

Due to popular demand, the fabulous Pearson Bros have given us some outtakes from Death & the Alien...

Thank you boys!

Fione Man of the Week

Christian Bale He's Batman, he's the machinist, he's an American Psycho. Since he burst onto the scene in the 80's in Steven Spielberg's Empire of the Sun, Bale has continually strives to perfect his craft. Mostly famously, he lost enough weight to appear a walking skeleton in The Machinist. It's quite the performance. If you haven't seen it, rent it or add it to your NetFlix queue.
Viva Le Christian!

Countdown's Craig Dragnet

Okay, this one is just too good not to post:

Divorced From Reality

Lately the issue of divorce and how it affects looking for love has been on my mind. I was divorced over fifteen years ago, when I was barely 24. I married and divorced young. Now, I see I am reaching the age when I am meeting divorced contemporaries; they are going through now what I went through long ago. As someone recently said, "I am at a point in my life where I am struggling a bit with my personal life; I am shy/reluctant/afraid of making a second marriage mistake yet in need of companionship."

I understand what he is talking about – emotionally and practically. When I divorced, it took quite a while to get my mind together. The disintegration of my marriage was a devastating blow. He left me for another woman, something that can damage your psyche, your ego and your mind. I was slow to accept the reality of the split, mostly because my ex made a habit of pitting me and Chris (her name) against each other when he was in some way unhappy with the other. It took a long t…